A close friend shared with me how early in his life, he was taught about attachments and how to detach himself from everything and everyone. I must admit, although I had heard that lesson before, I was a bit uncomfortable as he spoke. What in the world was he talking about? I had just lost my son, how could I not be attached to that precious soul that flowed into and out of my life so quickly? I have two other remarkable children, an unbelievably wonderful husband, an incredibly magnificent grandson who is the definition of goodness. I have a warm, inviting, soulful abode full of art and creative essence. I have profound connections with friends of all ages throughout the world. What does it mean not to be attached to anything or anyone? My friend challenged me by his thoughts and example.

As I am evolving, I see life differently. I understand the reality we see as form and story is in fact an illusion, confirmed by quantum physics. I see that we are all energy, souls, spirits that live infinitely in and out of this existence. I see how we are placed in this vehicle of form and story to help our souls to grow according to what we need to learn. I see that this life on earth is neither the beginning nor the end of our lives, only a sliver of our infinite presence. As I view this perspective, I understand what my friend is teaching me about attachment. Our insatiable ego is constantly trying to convince us to hold onto to grasp for more, more of everything and everyone. The funny thing is that the ego is never satisfied, and I see that no matter how hard I try to hold onto someone, something, an experience, a situation, a thought, IT IS NEVER ENOUGH. It is an illusion to think feeding my ego will satisfy me. It will never happen. Conversely, when I learn how to not feed nor protect my ego, and to identify with my true self beyond my form and story, I am always fulfilled- even when I am in pain, even when I am going through a storm, even when I am faced with death. When I let go of everything and everyone, I recognize, I AM ENOUGH.

What does it feel like to detach from everything and everyone? My ego screams, “Are you out of your freaking mind?!” My true self feels peace because I realize I cannot contain anyone or anything, no matter how hard I try. I understand when I detach from everyone, I am freeing myself and others to grow. I am reminded of Deepak Chopra’s spiritual law of detachment:
“Allow yourself and others the freedom to be who they are. Do not force solutions- allow solutions to spontaneously emerge.”

How does it feel to be detached from having all my physical needs met, being healthy, living in a safe and comfortable environment? And as I am learning to detach, I am challenged to go deeper, to not only things and people, but to detach from how I view myself. How does it feel to detach from the concept of how I am viewed by others- loyal, faithful, wise, beautiful, loving, logical?

I wonder if whoever is reading this is starting to freak out, thinking I am going to do some pretty drastic things. I wonder if whoever is reading this is, like I was listening to my friend, REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE. I understand. I don’t know what my future holds. I only know that as Deepak Chopra stated, “Uncertainty is essential, and your path to freedom.” As I detach, I feel free and there is a deep knowing that everything’s gonna be all right.